The Lost Newsletters Pt II

Welcome to another edition of the Charisma Arts newsletter!

Last week we told you to go out and man hug a stranger. How did it go? Not that hard, was it? That is the level of commitment you should have with every person you talk to. Put yourself out there 100%. We have a saying at CA, “Loud people don’t scare people, quiet people do.” Quiet people are tentative and reserved, loud people we know whether we can trust them or like them immediately. Quiet people are too reserved for us to make a judgment about so we are forced to invest a lot of effort to know them. Why invest that much into a stranger? Be 100% committed to putting yourself out there with confidence. If you had the confidence to hug a random guy on the street, everything else will come easy!

Q&A

What kind of mindset do you need to be successful with the Charisma Arts Method?

Charisma Arts will give you the tools to transform your life for the better. So many of our techniques will force you to be confident. Confidence is the most attractive trait in a man. You can’t fake it; it takes confidence to be successful with women. Ironic isn’t it, how can we gain confidence when it already takes confidence to be successful? Disqualification screams confidence. Coming in with a warm committed vibe displays huge value and confidence. By doing things like trying to find out what makes a woman interesting, it shows a lot of value. Confidence comes through practice and being reminded that each of us is innately an incredible person. We are approval giving because we are so confident, not approval seeking. Whatever mindset you come in with, develop, or have, we assume attraction because we like ourselves and know as soon as a woman sees who we are they will like us too. Yet we never bother trying to impress because we want to find out if we like her first. Whether you are extremely confident already, or extremely shy and insecure, the techniques from CA will start you on the path to being able to show the real you, confidently to anyone you meet.

Is Charisma Arts against routines?

We get this question a lot. We prefer a less scripted form of interaction because we feel it will teach you to more dynamically and artistically interact with people. Sometimes the learning curve is a bit steeper for some, but in the long run we feel you will be much more genuine and appealing to women without routines. Remember one of our main points is genuine interest is a powerful attractive trait. Also the more confidently authentic you are, the stronger the connection with the people you meet will be.

Do you still advocate the 90/10 rule?

The 90/10 rule was an older idea Wayne had when he was first developing the method. It was based on him being a good entertainer and holding her attention. When he found out how to make the interaction a 50/50 balance and flow of conversation and energy, he discovered it was much more powerful. The idea is to use open-ended questions, the vacuum, and relating and rewarding to elicit her to make more of an effort in an interaction. You want to encourage her to want to gain your interest in her, and work for it.

What was your biggest breakthrough with the Charisma Arts Method?

A client in San Francisco asked me this recently; he found the answer very helpful so I thought I would share it with you.

I am not only an instructor but I was also a client. I was in the same place many of you are, when I was considering taking a boot camp. I related to women from a place of ego. I liked who I was, and wanted women to see what I saw in myself that was impressive. So I told a lot of stories about my adventures and spoke in a way that made sure she knew I was intelligent. The irony is, the more you brag about yourself or try to impress someone, the less you actually do. So I needed a whole new way to relate. Charisma Arts taught me that instead of telling stories and anecdotes to impress people that I need to use those same stories to connect and relate to people. If the reason I told a story was to show the person I was talking to that I had a similar experience (that elicited a similar emotion), I could understand who they were and where they were coming from.

An interesting thing started to happen. As I began listening more for the emotional content in other people’s stories, I began to become very interested in what they had to say. I no longer was just waiting for my turn to tell a cool story. Then when I related I found that my stories were far more well received. The added bonus was that I got to tell all my cool stories but I was using them to relate, not impress.

We all want people to see who we are as unique impressive individuals. The key is not telling someone how unique you are, instead find out how unique they are. You in turn will be one of the few people they meet that they feel truly understands them. Isn’t that what we wanted in the first place for ourselves? There is a saying, “Give to others what you want for yourself.”

“Seduction is the art of setting the stage for two people to choose to reveal themselves to each other.” Juggler p118 The Game

TECHNIQUE

That moment has arrived when you are talking to a beautiful woman and you are getting along great. You can tell she is into you and you are into her. The nagging thought has been in your head for a while, “is it time to kiss her?” If you have to ask, the answer is YES! So here is Kory’s patented kiss close technique (Although I don’t know when Wayne’s patent ran out, I think this was his idea, just don’t tell Kory I told you that.)

When you think it is time to kiss her, it has probably already been time long since past. Amp up the kino a bit, then tell her to close her eyes. She knows damn well what is coming. Then kiss her. If she doesn’t kiss you back she will nonetheless think you are ballsy and respect you for it. If you do get denied don’t worry about it, let it roll and be unperturbed. You can always say something like “Well I was going to kiss you, but now you are just going to have to wait until I find you as sexy as I did just a moment ago.” Make sure you deliver that with a sly grin.

My personal favorite is turning it into a sexual barrier. I say “Well I have been thinking about kissing you for the last ten minutes, but honestly I can’t tell you that because I just met you.” Almost every time she will kiss you at that moment.



Well that wraps up this edition of the Charisma Arts newsletter. We’ll talk to you soon!

Charismatically yours,

Dan (Social HitchHiker)

Are you looking to make more progress? Our resources are at your fingertips. http://www.charismaarts.com has lots of different tools for you to become an incredibly charismatic individual. Download our E-Book and see just how simple conversation can turn from platonic to personal to sexual. Still can’t seem to integrate some of the tools we teach? Try a phone consultation! What a great way to get solid advice personalized to your situation and personality. For those of you ready to have your life completely altered, say goodbye to free evenings and sleep. Our boot-camp will make you so charming, women will be clamoring for your attention and keeping you up all night hogging all the covers. Don’t say I didn’t warn you!