HB Cowboy Boots

So i'll give you an update on this one. Definetly one of those women that breaks the rules. Rewarding and relating has been my biggest power tool, as it usually is. However this woman will not flirt with me. Amazing really. Sexual barriers, bite the dust, SOI's "That's nice". Push pull, she becomes disinterested. So a re-adjustment in my game has occurred with her.

I find she is not like most women. She is a psychology professor and VERY intelligent. I have to be extremely genuine or she sees through it. So i just have been doing a lot of emotional connection with her as well as disqualification. As I try to escalate she becomes defensive. So I call her out on it. I mention how just last time we went out her body language was sending interesting mixed signals. She was literally always sitting in the chair as far away from me as possible. Then she revealed her motives. She has only kissed 2 guys she has not slept with. She is a slow mover. Bar kiss closes, really out the window with this type of woman. She also relates she has to really get to know someone first before even feeling comfortable with flirting. In fact she has never had a one night stand. Although she very comfortably talks about sex so i'm hoping she is not inhibited.

Well I would guess a better PUA then myself would be able to escalate faster but i definetly enjoy taking my time with women i really like.

The interesting thing she told me though was this. She knew from the first ten minutes of our conversation the very first time we went out, (Remember we met on myspace and traded just a few emails) that she could be in a relationship with me. Of course she quickly disqualified any intentions, motives, or expectations (she is fairly socially savvy as well). That it was in fact one story i told that defined her feelings about me.

I told the story of my relationship with my father. I put everything on the line and told her the good emotions i was feeling, as well as the bad ones. I was very expressive and detail oriented and put a positive spin on my broken relationship with him at the end. It was that true genuine naked honesty, coupled with being me being accepting of my darkest emotions and the worst parts of myself, that attracted her the most to me. I told that story with no manipulative motives. Simply, i was relating to her emotionally tumultuous relationship with her father, with the story of my own relationship.

So I am definetly a bit in love with this woman. I am not going to mind taking my time. I've been dating a LOT in the last six months and this one seems like a girl i could do a relationship with. However if it doesn't turn into that I have no problem staying a bachelor until the next one who comes along that meets my high standards.

Although i'll tell you. An interesting thing has happened i didn't expect. I got into this stuff so i could have options and be able to find women who were up to my standards. The really surprising thing is i am a lot more open to the type of woman who could keep me happy now. I used to have to have a woman with certain interests and personality traits. Now I can love women who are so unlike me it is amazing. I simply understand and appreciate them more because i can connect with how they are feeling not necessarily what they are thinking and doing. I guess i spent so much time learning to relate to their emotions so they like me, that i became much more genuinely interested in them as a person and could appreciate and love them much more unconditionally.

Whoa.. Ok.. I'm getting too sappy for my mostly male readership.. So then i killed a bear with a big rock as i lept out of a tree and clubed him to death. Blood was smeared down my face as i yelled a monsterous victory war call.. Ok, there i feel better.

So keep with the emotional relating guys! It's good for us..

SHH

P.S.

From here though, i sure am going to have fun with using her own hesitancy as a sexual barrier ;)