Escalation is the natural progression of any interaction. How things escalate will ultamitely determine the outcome. Will you be escalating into a better friendship, or escalating her blouse over her head? The first interactions are so crucial. Even if she has a boyfriend or some other circumstance that doesn't allow you to sexually escalate you MUST still create a sexual vibe to keep yourself out of the friend zone. You must be the guy she is friends with but secretly wants to sleep with.
It all starts at the beginning with Kino. That sets up an intimate vibe. Then deliver the SOI. If she has a boyfriend or some other block to you guys hooking up use it as a sexual barrier. If all is ahead go when the moment is right tell her she is very sexy and to close her eyes. Then kiss her. It really is that easy. If she doesn't want to close her eyes then don't kiss her. But she will know whats coming.
Do not wait to escalate! that should be your mantra. Drive the interaction, don't be a passenger!
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Great blog, you've convinced me to check out a CA seminar in July.
Could you provide an example of how you would set up a BF as a "sexual barrier?" Not familiar with the term.
A sexual barrier is anything that you can put up to increase the sexual tension. It is based on push pull.
A boyfriend can be a sexual barrier, anything can be. Some are better than others though.
"You are incredibly sexy, it's really too bad i just met you tonight." Then let them know with subtlety you might make an exception.
Or with a boyfriend I mention it ONCE as a sexual barrier then only allude to it in future statements.
"You are incredibly sexy. It's too bad your boyfriend isn't here, it would make it a lot easier talk to you without these thoughts running through my head."
"Damn girl you don't even realize the effect your having on me, It's too bad... I guess you and i won't be able to act on these fantasies running through our heads right now."
Just don't make the barrier too difficult to break through.
I once used time as a sexual barrier with my ex girlfriend. 'It's too bad we don't have time to do anything, I'd really love to take your clothes off, yadda yadda yadda.'
She noticed that I was up to something because I'd done it before, and she was totally aware of what I was doing...but it still worked. Later that day, we have time, bam.
one thing though is be careful about the "boyfriend barrier." how Dan used it was fine, i read in the eBook to not use one of her own problems as a sexual barrier, like "if you didnt have a boyfriend i would.." that would probably make her feel defensive or make her think more about her boyfriend. i think the trick with boyfriends is don't mention them unless she brings them up and then be nice about it: "i'm sure he's a real cool guy, blah blah." it's reverse psychology, if you put down her boyfriend, she'll start thinking youre an asshole and remember how awesome her bf is. it's so easy to use the boyfriend as an excuse, so act as if there is no boyfriend.
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