The Nature of Attraction

What is it that most attracts us to another person? Putting the obvious aesthetics aside what about another person's personality makes them attractive?

My belief is it is our emotions and our humanity. When a woman feels the same way about something as you do it is attractive. In fact the more we see of ourselves in someone the more we are attracted to them. How narcissistic ;) But it is true. For guys, a woman with a simmilar interest is attractive to us because we can intellectually associate the positive emotions we have about something to her. We can know how she is feeling about those things because we have felt that way. People we can connect to and understand their emotions, we are attracted to. It works in reverse too!

In movies and books we have to empathize with the characters or we won't like them. In fact the more the director and actors work on showing how human they are, and show the emotions they must be experiencing, the more we like them.

Connecting to another person's emotions is the surest way to build attraction. Most guys try to show as little emotion as possible and "be cool". The opposite should be true. Now I am not saying to demonstrate negative emotions. The wimpy sensitive guy is showing insecurity, sadness, self deprication, loneliness, and being needy. However the charismatic guy shows his confidence when he shows how excited, happy, passionate, and expressive he is. This allows women around him to see his emotions and connect to him, which builds attraction.

We all have very simmilar emotions when it all comes down to it. Yet we have VASTLY different experiences. So you can go through life looking for people with simmilar experiences to connect with or you can connect with the emotions that we all have that are simmilar.

The human condition is one of the most compelling attractive topics in all art forms. Disqualification is a technique that shows we are confident about our weaknesses. Weaknesses are what make us human. Hence when we disqualify it builds attraction because it shows just how human we are, as well as how confident we are.

Why is confidence so attractive us? Because when we see confident people we relate and connect to those people having positive emotions about themselves. They remind us of the positive emotions we have about ourselves and we respond. Optimisim and confidence is addictive to be around.

The power of the methods Charisma Arts teaches is in your ability to confidently display your humanity and emotion to people you meet. Relating to the emotions of others and allowing them to see you have simmilar emotions, is how attraction is built. Relating and Rewarding is a technique where we show how we feel about things. The more we show our emotions, and just how human we are, the more attraction will be built.

So throw away the "Be Cool" mindset and be expressive and show each person how you feel about ANYTHING you are talking about. The essential nature of attraction is in the empathetic bond you create in every interaction.