Building a Social Circle

One of the most fulfilling things about the Charima Arts Method is the ability to use it in all aspects of your life. An important step in becoming a confidant high value male is building a strong social circle.

Guys have a weird homophobic fear of talking to other guys unless they are rooting for a sports team together or at the same occupation. Over and over clients are reluctant to approach a lone guy or group of guys at a bar. I simply encourage them to do it without a lot of tips or explanation. What they find is it is very easy. Most guys, who are not already talking to a woman, are very open to talking with you. They want to look cool so they certainly don’t seem friendly. However, if you approach them the same as you would a woman, with a nice warm vibe, you will find they are actually really happy to talk to you.

My only suggestion on talking to guys is mention women in the first couple minutes of the conversation. If you do this they will know you are not gay and trying to hit on them, and what group of guys doesn’t want to talk about the hot women in the bar? Instant conversation!

Once you connect with more guys in your everyday life start getting their phone numbers and invite them to do things with you. Believe me, once you number close a strange guy and see how non-homosexual it feels, it will be easy.

Start developing things in your life you enjoy doing and then start inviting men and platonic women every time you do these things. It may be slow at first but more and more your invitations will start being accepted and you will start getting invitations of your own. My rule here is NEVER if you can help it, turn down an invitation. That is a sure way to not get another invite. Even if you can only make a brief appearance do so. It will show you are a social guy who will show up if someone invites you.

Build your life into an interesting adventure with lots of hobbies, sports, or outings. It will make you happier and more confident, then start including other people as well. This will ensure if you are trying to build a good social circle you will have a life that is attractive to other to be a part of.

Two other tips: first, if you have a nice house or apartment, start throwing house parties! This is a great way to get people to know you and build your social proof. Second, don’t spend every night sarging! Take time to spend dating and going out with the large list of phone numbers you get while living your life and the times you do go out to the bars. The other nights spend going out with friends. If you want to do an approach or two, great, introduce your non-community friends to new women. They will definitely want to hang out with you then!

My thought I want to leave you with. If guys are going out sarging every night when do they have time to go out with all the women they meet? I found I could barely go out once a week without having too many women to call and juggle on all of my other free nights. Makes me wonder a bit about the community guys I see out at the bar every night. I think it is a good thing to go out sarging once a week and then the rest of the week go out with the women you are dating and your friends the rest of the nights. Don’t have a bunch of women to date yet? Go out with friends and do some approaches here and there the other nights. That way you can practice meeting new people and introducing them to your group. Merge sets, and introduce your friends to new people.

I think the best advice I can give a lot of guys in the community on building a strong social network is don’t give up your non-community friends. Build those relationships stronger. Also stop talking game 24/7!!!! Try having normal conversations and making non-community friends.

Good luck, here is a goal; invite at least one stranger who is a guy out to do something this week. You will find it is easier than you think!