Authenticity

I’ve been there. It seems like your brain shuts off and nothing that comes out of your mouth makes sense. You try everything in your power to be impressive and charming. She is just too damn HOT! You are doomed from the start. Get used to it. If you want to date or even have a casual conversation with a very beautiful woman, let alone figure out how to make her want to sleep with you, you have to change your perspective a bit.

What makes men attractive in a real, healthy way is authenticity. We are exactly who we say we are, and are proud of ourselves in all of our strengths and weaknesses. That is true self-confidence. This is not to say we can’t learn to present ourselves in the best way, which is what Charisma Arts is there to teach you. Learning to be yourself in a way that shows self-confidence will create a change in you for sure.

Ever notice women you are not attracted to often fall in love with you? That is because you are 100% authentic and not afraid to be who you are with them. Well I have bad news; you are never going to get the really hot woman you have been dreaming of if you keep doing what you are doing. The community knows this and even says, stop being yourself; the question is who should you be? Or are you even being yourself when you talk to that really beautiful woman? That is the problem; you are not yourself when you are trying to get someone to like you. In fact, the more insecure you are, the less you are yourself around anyone.

A little irony starts to arise; the more you want someone to like you the less you show your true self. This is why you won’t get a really hot woman anytime soon. Of course there are routines to make you appear confident and entertaining, but you have to have a normal conversation sooner or later, then what. I know, pretty bad news. There is hope though.

I do think you can get, and even keep a really hot woman, but only if you can learn to be authentic. Charisma Arts has some great tools to get there. Disqualification, learning to agree, telling stories from the “I” perspective, etc, all achieve one goal; presenting you as a self-confidant authentic person.

So here is the path to being authentic:

1. Learn to talk to everyone and be genuinely interested in people, no matter who they are or what they look like.
2. Realize that you don’t even know that really beautiful woman you are worried about talking to. She might have an STD and had a gangbang with the football team 2 hours ago. Would she really be that attractive to you then? YOU DON”T KNOW HER! Start thinking about the attractive women you’ve met that you wouldn’t date because of various reasons. You can’t put anyone on a pedestal.
3. Like yourself! You have to enjoy the person you are before anyone else will. Go take a class, start a hobby, do anything that you enjoy and do it MORE! If you don’t think you are that interesting, start enriching your life by trying new things.
4. Work on interacting with people from a place of confidence and authenticity. Be proud of who you are, even the stuff you don’t like about yourself. Stop being fearful of whether they like or don’t like you.

The techniques listed on this blog and through Charisma Arts will get you there, but you have to be willing work on your confidence in yourself. That is the mindset, which makes this whole method work. “I want to be me, I like myself.” You have to be willing to fuck yourself before anyone else wants to. No, I don’t mean masturbate more. Learn to walk confidently everyday of your life. When you can be yourself around anyone, and be confident, then you will be able to have a chance at that ten you have been drooling over. Until then keep talking to those women, eventually you will stop putting them on a pedestal, and be happy to be yourself around them. That is when authenticity will become your most attractive trait.