A Great Interaction

When i got into the community all i really wanted was to know what i was doing with women and to be able to put all of my best attributes forward in the most attractive way possible. I never wanted another occurance of finding that woman i really wanted but couldn't make it happen.

Tonight it happened. I have been dating a lot and didn't settle for any of the girls who wanted me in an exclusive relationship. Well tonight i finally found someone up to my standards and expectations. I dated her once, HBCowboyBoots, and it has been a while since we went out due to her having gall bladder surgery.

We went out for a quick drink since she had class in the morning. She is a 27 yr old Psychology proffessor. Very sexy, and really smart. just like i like em..

It felt so great knowing i was doing everything right in the interaction.I finally met someone that mattered to me. I nailed it. I brought my A game. I found out all sorts of interesting things out about her and kept it all about our emotions. I disqualified well and she was so into it. She invited me to drop in and see her teach on tuesday.. My SOI went over well and we got into some good conversations about sex and relationships. I couldn't escalate too much due to obligations i had later in the evening.

Regardless of where this goes with her I just love that when it really mattered i pulled it out and knew i had her..

One interesting point. As an Instructor i don't lie when women i really like ask me what i do. Of course this adds a special dilemma. The topic of being a social dynamics instructor has interesting effects. Either you get stuck on the topic because it is such a juicy topic, or they get self conscious about their interaction with you.

So I disqualified as such:

"Even though i am an instructor i'll tell you some days i can't seem to be social at all and am a complete futtz when talking to the lady at the post office that i buy stamps from. Though it is interesting, I am always a bit hesitant to tell people what i do because they sometimes get nervous that i am analyzing their interaction with me or that i am using my techniques on them. I'm sure you feel that way sometimes when people find out you teach psychology, they think your psychoanalyzing them. It makes it hard sometimes even though you are just being yourself."

It was great because it diffused all that wierdness i've seen in other interactions and really connected us emotionally. It also set her worries at ease and put us on the same level.

So while that won't apply to those of you reading the blog, the idea is the same. Disqualify if you ever are in a situation where something might be intimidating to them or when they put you above them.. Be human, disqualify and be proud of your weaknesses.