The Direct Opener

So many guys think you have to have some fancy way to go up to a girl to talk to her. It really isn't true, that stuff is mainly just to ease their insecurity. The important thing really is how to respond to her response. If you open poorly it makes this harder. If you open well it's hardly an afterthought.

The most important thing when thinking about opening is whether the person is in an internal or external mental state. Rather are they focused on thoughts and internal dialogue or are they externally focused on social interaction. Generally in the daytime people are internally focused and at night they are externally focused due to the venue and situation.

For Nighttime opening they are already externally focused so about the only opener I ever use is: "Hi my name is SHH". Then i ask a question and relate to the answer and go from there.

Presumptions, Focus openers, and "The Flopsy" are all effective in night game but aren't really needed since "Hi" works so well and is less work.

In the day time people are lost in their own heads. If you just go up to someone and say hi and introduce yourself it is a bit shocking and slightly intrusive into their state of mind. Not that you can't make it work, just again you have to be able to handle their responses better. This is where the three aforementioned openers work much better.

Focus Openers:
A focus opener is basically trying to see what a person is focused on and create an opener that merges closely with their thoughts. For example if they are standing in front of the window of a cooking store staring at all the blenders and knives etc. You could say "Damn, wouldn't it be nice to have all that stuff in your kitchen. Imagine the food you could create." She is possibly thinking about wanting a blender or something in the window so you merge with her thoughts.

Presumptions:
These can be mixed with any opener and should be. The important part is to make an assumption about her and presume your right. This creates a sense of familiarity with her very quickly because you are implying you know her well enough to ask something right to the point. e.g. You see her grab a very basic book in the spanish section and she has 3 others under her arm. "So how long have you taught spanish?" The cool part about presumptions is it dosen't matter if you are right or wrong. It shows you are confident and then usually leads to a good response if she has to explain why you are not correct.

The Flopsy:
The flopsy is just a type of focus opener. It can be as simple as when a girl reaches for a movie on the shelf you say "No thats a horrible movie, this one is much better." Or like in Juggler's Book, everyone is walking by this rabbit named flopsy, you ask the girl, "So what kind of dog do you think that was?" The flopsy is trying to merge with their thoughts and integrate your opener with what you think she is thinking.

One more tip on daytime opening. Make sure she is aware of your presence before opening. Whether you have to take a book out in front of her or walk in from a more frontal direction, make sure she knows you are there. coming up from behind or saying something to someone that dosent' know your there can be very shocking.