Ok, so the situation with BMixedMessages gets more interesting. I am out after work and run into her at the bar. She kino's me very heavily the moment i see her. She returns to her friends and about 15 min later invites me and a friend of mine over to hang out. Very forward.. We hang out at their table till just about closing time. She starts asking what we were doing afterwards. My friend says he's going to bed (which was good since he wasn't really vibing with us) and i said i'm up for anything. I drive BMM to her house and the other two girls follow. I at this point return to my AFC tendancies and end up being kind of timid. BMM is also Bi and the other messages she has sent me in the past was she was well more interested in girls then me. So i missed a lot of her IOI's when we were at her house and she started getting very forward. We started flirting heavy and i would then turn to the other girs to disarm them if needed by including them always in the interaction. One of the girls was staying and went to bed. The other girl says she is going home and ends up taking a nap on the couch before leaving. BMM asks me if i want to watch a movie with her. I knew it was on at that point. Damn condoms were in the car though. We went to her room and she took charge of the first part of the interaction telling me to lay down and get comfortable. I finally get some balls and start cuddling her and then making out with her. (note: next time choose a boring movie, we kept getting distracted laughing at the movie)
After AFC'ing most of the night i finally start running game on her trying to defeat her LMR. She says she is not going to have sex with me though. This was when i really should have done a freezeout. It would have worked better. At least i can say i didn't beg plead or let her have control. My strategy i realize was for earlier in the game during rapport and attraction phase, not comfort phase. It only intensified her ASD and i got nada. Although a good set up for next time.
When she said, i'm not going to have sex with you, i said "who said i was gonna have sex with you?" It took her off guard and things got even hotter and heavier. Then my mistake. I started doing push pull but in a way i think i intensified her ASD. I started pointing out how she was the one who seduced me (great game for post sex or attraction rapport phase, not here though). How i would give her incredible pleasure but i'm not a sausage with legs. You just can't pick me up that easy, i'm high maintenance. A lot more along those lines. While it did make her incredibly horny, I even fingered her for a while. In the end i think she felt like she was being too bold and felt some buyers remorse before we started even having sex. She didn't want to feel like she seduced me. So major ASD walls went up. I possibly could have gotten them down by being more forward and just going for it harder after i did the push pull. Regardless i made some big mistakes and wasn't forward enough..
We had a nice night fooling around though. We went to breakfast in the morning and it is turning out she might be a great pivot even if she is not layable.. A bi pivot can be a valuable person.
Overall i learned some major things about myself. I am not forward enough. Every relationship in the past i've ever had i've either lucked out being in the perfect spot so i felt comfortable enough, scratch that safe enough, to be forward, or the woman was. I am so afraid of being that "asshole" i never try for the lay.. I don't even know how to get that out of my head it is so ingrained. I should be the one setting up the venue change, i should be the one making the first move.. I need to set that up in the first 5 min of interaction. So that is my goal.. I need to make an SOI in the first five min of any interaction. I bet just doing that will vastly improve my game. The power of the SOI isn't even felt till endgame but if you don't set it up early you can't go back to it.
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